No one is exempt from criticism and critics never die out. As a child, you desperately hope that all the gossip, ridicule and mockery will stop as you get older, but, unfortunately, this does not happen. In today’s world, with sources like Facebook, Instagram and Twitter allowing us to communicate with the rest of the world at any time, it also opens the outlet for hate to reach us faster, too.
Growing up in the social media era myself, I am all too familiar with the repercussions of hateful slander and bullying.
Even celebrities endure their fair share of “hate.” Jimmy Kimmel made an ongoing gag of this negativity with his “Mean Tweets” segment (a hilarious skit in which celebrities read aloud rude tweets that people have made about them).
Negative people will always exist, whether in high school, the office or at your favorite dive bar.
So, instead of wallowing in torment and hurt regarding someone else’s words, use the energy to motivate yourself. Here is how:
They bring out emotion.
Let’s face it: 80 percent of those who talk about you are people you once called “friends.”
This is the most hurtful of circumstances because it comes from someone you trusted enough to talk with about your ex and comfortable enough with to marathon an entire season of “How I Met Your Mother.”
Oh, and don’t forget about the time you got so drunk on 7-Eleven wine, you couldn’t get out of bed the next day.
When this person turns on you, it can bring out some heavy emotions. Instead of using your emotions to maliciously retaliate, redirect that energy into doing something for yourself.
Finish a project you’ve been putting off, pick up a new book or take a language course — anything that is beneficial to you. Don’t make the other person hurt; make yourself happy.
They make you reevaluate yourself.
When someone criticizes you, the first thing you may think is, “What is wrong with me?” This is a natural reaction, but you can harness it to define what you want.
When you look in the mirror, how do you want to see yourself? Pitiful? Humiliated? Of course not. You want to be strong and confident.
If you begin to see yourself this way, the rest of the world will see you that way, too.
You feel the need to prove them wrong.
When someone tells you that you can’t do something, it makes you want to do it that much more. People don’t like to hear the words “no” or “I cannot.”
These words are dangerous to the human psyche. So, take their negativity and doubt, do what you do best and turn it into something of which you can be proud.
The best revenge is to continue living and to prove yourself.
It proves you must be doing something right.
Let’s get back to the root of the hate. People concern themselves with other people’s business because they are jealous — plain and simple.
They say the opposite of love is indifference, right? Well, if they’re hating on you, then they obviously care enough about you to share their thoughts with the world.
Regardless of their reasoning for the negativity, they are taking the time out of their silly lives to creep on your Instagram page or your Twitter feed.
All the negative comments about your wardrobe or your eyebrows or your taste in music are irrelevant when you really think about it. Remember, you must be posting something right if they keep coming back.
The problem is that no matter what you accomplish or how well you are doing, people will always have something to say. When one hater leaves, another will take his or her place.
Keep your head high, worry about your own happiness and motivate yourself forward, on to bigger and better things.