Dear Jessie,

I look around the office and all I see are flirty little pinheads playing the slut card to get the boss’s attention. I guess they have nothing else to offer or maybe they’re the smart ones who recognize the fastest track to the top is to go straight down. But me, well, that’s not in my 5-year plan. I mean I’ve got the goods, don’t get me wrong. It’s just I don’t want that to be how I get my next promotion. I also don’t want to wait 5 years for it either. Don’t judge me for judging but…how do I get ahead without giving head?


Corporate Prude


Dear Corporate Prude:

First, get the idea out of your head (pun intended) that you need to provide sexual favors in order to get ahead. You are a girl boss who doesn’t need to rely on such actions for success; you can do that all on your own…trust me.

Get ahead by working it professionally

I have always been a firm believer in the notion that you should always dress for the job that you wish you had. Though this not only changes how you appear on the outside, on the inside this will give you an unimagined new level of confidence. Let this attitude radiate into everything you do at your workplace, and this will speak volumes to your superiors.

Get ahead by satisfying your boss…with results

I think this might be obvious, but if you want to get ahead in your workplace you need to get ahead in your actual work. Does a co-worker need assistance with a project that has a quick deadline? Volunteer to help. Don’t be afraid or hesitant to reach out for more work and to ask to be included on other tasks. Getting around in respect to the actual work is more than enough when it comes to success.

Get ahead by getting the right action on at work

A lot of people dread going to work and it shows that they don’t want to be there. Change your attitude and it will change the way you look at your day-to-day work life. Wanting to actually be at the office will not go unnoticed by your boss and you’re sure to stand out amongst your co-workers.

One last word of advice. If these tips don’t seem applicable to where you’re working and it really seems the only way to get anywhere is to sleep with someone higher than you, maybe this isn’t the best place to be working. There are plenty of opportunities out there for you to get ahead and give head, but not at the same time.


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